Remembrance

"You forget what you want to remember and you remember what you want to forget." (12)

The man in The Road by Cormac McCarthy stated the quote above while talking to the boy. I completely agree with what the man is trying to tell his boy, and this quote defines my state of thought. I think that this also happens to many people because the things that you want to forget the most you will always remember. It is something that the mind does unconsciencely and one can never control their mind and tell it to remember and forget things. For me to somewhat "control" it, when I want to remember something I always write it down. In a way I keep a journal in which I write important things I do everyday. When I look back on it, I always remember what I did in that specific moment and day. I also love taking pictures which create memories. This pictures are always organized in a calendar in the days that I took them, so it is like my journal but in a more visual way. They help me to remember happy memories and look at the picture and think back on the moment. That is what pictures were meant for, but when people do not have pictures, the journal keeping is very helpful.

The forgetting part is always the hardest to do. I find that with the worst possible memories, and the most I want to forget them, I always remember them. It is hard because as you think of erasing them you are reminded of them. The forgetting part is the hardest because you cannot just erase something from your head, it is almost impossible. The only way is to never think about it, but since the mind is such a powerful thing, the thought can show up in dreams. The hardest things for me to forget are always the worst. Since they are the ones that you want most out of your head, they are the ones that most stay in your head. It is like a stain that you can never wash out, it can fade away, but it will always stay there.

The mind will always be hard to control, and forgetting and remembering things will always be a challenge for the human mind. There are obviously moments and memories that one completely forgets, but they are never the ones that you want to forget, they are always just moments that do not really matter, so your mind is never "refreshed" on it.